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🎵 All the single ladies,
Now put your hands up! 🎵 🙋🏼
(I can’t type this title without hearing that song. Sorry in advance for getting it stuck in your head!)
So I’ve been single quite a few years now. About 30, to be exact.
I’ve always been a reader, but it wasn’t until I entered the world of dating and things didn’t go as hoped (read: failed) that I really started reading anything other than fiction. I hated anything nonfiction, struggled to plow through any required reading for school, and had very little patience when it came to books that weren’t stories. I wanted to like them. I just couldn’t.
Then I went through my first really difficult season as an adult, and everything changed – myself at the top of the list.
One day in the middle of my lowest season, I picked up a book about personality (This one, if you’re curious) that left me feeling great about myself and my strengths. Wow! I thought. I’m sure this book is just an exception to the rule, but it was so good! It literally changed my life.
I dared to read another one. And another. And, sure, there were a few mixed in there that really weren’t worth reading. But for the most part, when I picked books on topics that interested me, they kept me riveted. I also started highlighting – even though I’m Type A and I’ve always hated to mark up my books – because it helps me stay more focused when I’m reading.
Naturally, a lot of the books that piled up on my shelves happened to be about relationships. I was determined to avoid Mr. Wrong, learn from my mistakes and others’, and date wisely. Some of these books had been circulating for years, and I kicked myself for not reading them earlier.
I’ve accumulated a ton of books over the past several years, and I’ve found a ton of relationship gems. Here are a few especially impactful ones:
11. The Sacred Search: What If It’s Not About Who You Marry, But Why? by Gary Thomas. I can’t say that I agree with everything in this book (and I’ve had some great debates/conversations with friends on some of its concepts), but there are so many good and thought-provoking points within its pages that I can’t help but include it on my list. It really challenges you to think long and hard about what kind of person you want to marry and to consider your motivations from a realistic perspective.
Ladies, you may feel alone sometimes as a single, but you’re not alone. Let these books encourage you as you navigate this season – this beautiful, one-of-a-kind season – and grow you as you prepare for the next one.