We’ve all been there. You see him coming: the guy you suspect has a crush on you that is definitely not mutual. (Or, worse, his mom, desperately trying to find a wife for her very unattractive son at all costs, her sights set on you.)
What do you do?
Here is what I have done, for better or for worse:
Ducked into the ladies’ bathroom
Remained in the bathroom for as long as it took until the coast was clear
Hid and prayed I wasn’t discovered
Walked in the other direction, even if it was the opposite direction from where I was headed
Struck up a conversation with someone – anyone – else
Pulled other people into our [unwanted] conversation
Scanned the room disinterestedly
Picked up a child
Picked up a dog
Picked up really any object to talk about and/or focus on
Focused intently on something – anything – else
Given one-word responses
Flashed a smile that is clearly strained
Fake-texted
Looked at my phone
Made an excuse to temporarily leave the room
Left the venue entirely
Pretended I didn’t see him
Implied I had an urgent task to attend to
Changed the subject
Played dumb
Feigned busyness
Closed my eyes in prayer or worship
Loudly jangled my car keys
Started my car
Led him to believe the headphones I was wearing were actually playing music
Hidden behind a large object
Quickly dialed a friend
Quickly made plans to go elsewhere
Hit BLOCK on social media
Left a message unopened
Nonverbally communicated with a friend to get me out of there!
Now, I’m not exactly saying other females should follow my example and try these tactics out for yourselves. (I’m not saying you shouldn’t, either. 🤷🏼♀️) But desperate times sometimes call for desperate measures.
Guys, if you’re reading this and you’ve observed these behaviors in the woman you like, help a girl out (Help yourself out, for that matter!) and back off a bit. You deserve someone who thinks you’re the bee’s knees, not someone who wants to bolt every time you’re around! I promise you, there’s a girl out there who won’t run in the opposite direction when she sees you. Keep searching for that one – she’s worth it and so are you. ❤️
Hey! I'm Brianna and I'm a millennial. I'm also a reader, writer, God-lover, introvert, and recovering perfectionist. ☺️
I want to inspire millennials to retain their morality, hope, and faith as they transition into adulthood and full-fledged "adult."
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